Mis-interceptions While Using Instant Messaging, Save Your Self

8 Interpretations of Silence when using Instant Messaging Posted on January 16, 2011 by thecouchmanager| 64 Comments I use Instant Messaging (IM) a lot in my job to manage my team and connect with friends. I love it because I have the unparalleled advantage of multi-tasking different conversations with so many people at once. Of course, it does have a few drawbacks, but overall, I still think it’s a valuable tool in the arsenal of online communication.

However, there is one pet peeve that most individuals share when using online chat: Silence

I’m not referring to the natural pauses that occur during a normal back & forth online conversation, but rather to the (sometimes intentional) disappearing act that people choose to do after reading an IM message.

Here’s a typical online chat session:

Person A: Hey!

Person B: Hey, what’s up?

Person A: Nothing much, things are going great so far

Person A: Quick question. Regarding the budget report and status update we discussed last week, I wanted to follow up on where we stand with that. Do you have something you’d like to share before our meeting this afternoon? I don’t feel I have all the info I need before discussing them with the client.

Person B: *Silence* (for quite a while)

Person A: Still there??

Person B: *More Silence*

Here are 8 interpretations that go on inside Person A’s mind:

So basically, Person A starts making assumptions and acting upon those assumptions, and that almost always leads to miscommunication issues.

Here are 3 lessons learned for Person B to save everyone time and frustration:

1. If you’ve read the message, for the love of God, type out what you’re thinking. Even if you’re hesitant to answer, a simple “Let me think about it,” or “I’ll get back to you” would be much more appreciated compared to the agonizing feeling of wondering whether you read the message or not.

2. If you haven’t read the message, then type a quick “brb” before stepping out or set your status to automatically update to “Busy” or “Away.”

3. If you got disconnected while in the middle of a chat conversation, a courteous follow up with a call or email to let Person A know you might have missed a message would help a lot. Surprisingly, with all the technology we have to date, a lot of those IM clients don’t always update your online/ offline status in real time, so one can’t always tell if you dropped off before you got the last message.

So Try to Do This Except ***Silence***

Questions to Ask the Interviewer

A job interview isn’t a one-way street. The most successful interviewees realize it is an intelligent conversation, a mutual give-and-take that should result n both parties communicationg their relevant agenda and understanding the other better.

Asking questions of the interviewer is not only expected but makes you look more interested (and interesting) to the interviewer, providing of course the questions are intelligent and show you in a positive light. Moreover, beyond asking questions to demonstrate your proactivity and intellect, this is the time to ascertain whether the job really is suitable for you and to determine the actual nature of the role on offer. The following are just a few questions that can be asked to know what you’re getting into.

Why is this position open?

What level of experience/ skill are you looking for in the person who fills this role?

What kind of training would be available?

What would my initial responsibilities on the job be?

What would a typical day look like in terms of projects, responsibilities, deadlines etc?

Can you tell me something about the team I would be working with?

What objectives would you like the person in this role to accomplish?

Is there a specific career progression path that I would have with your company?

What are some of the more difficult problems I might face in this role?

What resources would the person in this role have – in terms of support, budget etc.

What significant changes do you foresee in the company in the near future?

In what areas do you consider your company to have the greatest strength?

How would my performance be evaluated in this position?

Source: Bayt.com

Zindagi Mai Sakoon: Successful Life OR Easy Life

When we passed 8th class and promoted to 9th, most of us used to listen from their father, mother, brothers and sisters that

” Beta Matric kar lo, Phir Parhai Mushkil Nahi Hai, Phir Sakoon aa Jaye ga” OR “Bas Matrick Mushkil hai Agay Parhai Itni Mushkil Nahi hai”

or other statements like this. And these type of statements encourage us to study.

When we pass Matric/O Level and after a tough and confused time we decide whether to join Pre-Medical or Pre-Engineering or Computer Sciences in Intermediate. After deciding and getting admissions we start studying keeping in mind that Now the life will be easy, as we taught. But then we disheartened when we start facing troubles and again we found studying is a difficult thing. Then Again our families/other relations said the same thing

“Beta Matric Kar Lia, Ab Ye FSC Kar Lo, Phr University Mai Admission Mil Jaye Ga, Usky Baad University Mai Enjoy Bhe Karna Aur Parhai b Mushkil Nahi Ho Ge”.

And again we started to work hard and some of us finally succeeded.

Then again after a hard time and going through number of entry tests and merit lists we got admissions in universities and started university life with mindset that “Now Life Will be Easy and So Much Fun”. But, History repeats itself and again we started to feel difficulty in studying and quizzes, assignments, presentations and tension to maintain CGPA and a lot of others problems. But what happen at this stage we again listen the same statement from our families, friends and other relations

“Ab to Bus University kay 4 Years Parh lo, Phir Life Ban Jaye ge. Phir jo Marzi Karna”.

And again we started to study and dreaming the day when we will enjoy our income and Life.

After 4 Years:  Now our graduation is complete and we are waiting for the days we dreamed. But what happened this time, No Job, No Vacancy, No Enjoyment just disappointments from employers but we kept our spirits high and again starting putting CVs, giving interviews, tests and trying hard to find out references and lot more efforts to get AT LEAST A JOB.

Some of us got Jobs and working hard with enthusiasm to enjoy life. But what is this!!! Less income and more expenses, no increments, no promotions, shouts of boss and again we feel like falling on earth. And at this time some of us got disappointed from all this and even some of us start to use drugs to get peace in life.

But reality is “Zindagi Mai Sakoon Nahi hai” (Life is Never Easy). We are not in this world to spend life easily. What a beautiful quotation is this

That Who Thinks Life is A Bed Of Roses is living in A Fool’s Paradise

We have to work hard from the beginning and should have aims in life. Aims can be short term and long term and then start working hard to achieve those aims.

My request to parents kindly NOT To TEACH your children that life is easy. Teach your children to work hard, broaden their vision and keep working hard to achieve better and better.

Quaid-e-Azam, Muhammad Ali Jinnah said to student

You must devote yourself whole heartedly to your studies because this is your first obligation towards your state, your parents and yourself.

My dear friends kindly keep working hard in life with a path your choice. Look at this Giraffe. How hard is for him to drink water but he is USED TO WORK HARD.

Best of Luck and Stay Blessed 🙂

Saad Zafar